Growing Older...

Recently I spent a few days with my parents helping them with some legal matters and cleaning out a storage unit. Over the three days I became acutely aware that my parents were now the “old” generation and I was next in line. My grandparents have passed away, my aunts and uncles are having more health issues and my parents are not getting around as fast as they used to. Time has a way of being the great equalizer. Once robust and energetic people walk slower, forget more details, take more medication and take more naps. As I contemplated the process of getting older I realized in life there are so many transition seasons. And if we are not careful we will focus on the next season while missing the lessons and appreciating our current situation. When I was in elementary school I couldn’t wait until junior high. Then it was looking forward to high school and driving, then college, then getting a “real” job, then getting married. Each of these was a season of transition: transition in thinking, responsibility, relationships, experience and sometimes location. How often do we forget to “live today” because we are so looking forward to the next season? How often we miss the orchids because we are only looking for the rose. I don’t know what transition you have just gone through or what transition season you are in the midst of, but let me encourage you to relax and enjoy the ride. If you are in a transition, let me be so bold as to encourage you to keep walking and learn to appreciate the process. There may be strong emotions attached to this season. Be careful to allow yourself sufficient time to gain perspective on the changes you are going through because right now you may not be able to see the good parts of this season. There’s an old saying that “you can’t see the forest for the trees.” Right now you may be in the trees so you cannot see the beauty and majesty of the forest. If you have recently come through a transition take some time and contemplate the emotional roller coaster you were on and then list two positive things that came about as a result of this change. Being honest with ourselves and with the situation is important. Too many individuals want to discount the harshness of the season or ignore the emotional trauma of the transition. Accepting these while not assigning blame is an important component of processing the transition and getting the most from it. King Whitney Jr, the President of Personnel Laboratory Inc. was speaking to a sales meeting in the summer of 1967. He communicated an incredible perspective on this when he said “Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.” Today, as you face your transition, may you have confidence in the midst of the turmoil. May you have strength to endure and peace to walk through this season.